The Whole Brain Child (Commincate With Your Child)

Does your child throw fits, have random meltdowns, have unknown fears?

Scientists now believe that 50% of your child’s brain capacity is built in the first 6 years of life. Although every child is born with billions of brain cells, those cells only turn into usable intelligence when they are connected up with each other.  The connections are the pathways on which all future learning will be built.

What causes those connections to be made is the environment that they grow in and as a parent you can support that environment by supporting your child through communication and try to connect their emotions to their rational thoughts. The Whole Brain Child is the best book I’ve read on how to communicate with your child, why and how they arrive to the state they get too and how to calm your child and communicate with them.

The Whole-Brain Child:

12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive

Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson authors of The Whole Brain Child talk about how to demystify the meltdowns and aggravation, they explain the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids can seem—and feel—so out of control. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth. Raise calmer, happier children using the twelve key strategies, including:

NAME IT TO TAME IT: Corral raging right-brain behavior through left-brain storytelling, appealing to the left brain’s affinity for words and reasoning to calm emotional storms and bodily tension.
ENGAGE, DON’T ENRAGE: Keep your child thinking and listening, instead of purely reacting.
MOVE IT OR LOSE IT: Use physical activities to shift your child’s emotional state.
LET THE CLOUDS OF EMOTION ROLL BY: Guide your children when they are stuck on a negative emotion, and help them understand that feelings come and go.
S.I.F.T.: Help children pay attention to the Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts within them so that they can make better decisions and be more flexible.
CONNECT THROUGH CONFLICT: Use discord to encourage empathy and greater social success.As parents our job is to help our children understand emotions and help them combine emotion with logic, our job is to show them direction not create it, we all want the best for our children and if we can help with the way they communicate with the world around them. I highly suggest reading “The Whole Brain Child” this book also explains how as parents can create more anxiety in our children instead of strengthening the way they communicate. It’s a fascinating look at the way not only a child brain works but even as adults.
 
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